Friday, January 4, 2013

Simplifying My Life In 2013 + Creative Pay It Forward


Well, that’s the plan at least.

Simplifying my Life, not my decor.

Often when you hear that word, thoughts go to decorating styles.

This is not really my goal. 

Yes, there are areas that need it, such as closets, office, garage, etc.

But for now, I’m more concerned with Simplifying my life.

For the past year or so I have felt so stressed.

Some days are better than others, but looking back over 2012, Stressful is the main word that comes to mind.

That is no way to live, so something has to be done.

The thing is, a lot, not all but a lot of the stress is my own making.

I’m spreading myself too thin.

Trying to take on this and that, while still needing to finish 500 other things.

This needs to stop.

And that is just what I “plan” to do.

I want to get back to enjoying my home.

For way too long I really haven't.

I’ll do this or that, but it doesn't feel good because I’m too stressed, feeling like I need to finish so I can move on to other things.

Plus I have a real problem about feeling guilty about silly things.

If I’m not able to get something done because I was busy with this or that, at the end of the day, I feel guilty about it.

How crazy is that!

Like my website, for the past year I have barely been on it.

Not many new items listed, no tweaking, no playing around with it, nothing.

It just sat, which made me feel guilty because I was wasting the money I spent to have it up for the year.

So, that was my first decision.

Come February when my yearly hosting fee is expired, I will be closing it down.

I do still own the URL address and have no plans on giving that up after owning it for the past 9 years.

Instead I have decided to link it to my blog.

From there anyone who is interested can find my items for sale on Etsy and my selling blog.

I decided to keep the selling blog because its free and it gives me a place to sell newer items that Etsy doesn't allow.

Another thing I did, I closed down my booth.

Yes, the one I just opened a couple of months ago.

The rent was too high, I felt overwhelmed to try to fill it with more and more.

What started as Fun quickly became anything but.

I may open another one somewhere else in the Spring but for now I’m done.

I do plan on continuing to blog.

I could never walk away from all the wonderful friends I have made through the years.

My presence may be sporadic at times though.

When I have free time I’ll be on visiting all my favorite blogs, when I have something fun to share I’ll be posting.

The thing I am going to be working on though is not feeling guilty when life gets in the way and I end up staying away longer than expect.

I have a problem with that, Guilt, if I don't check in or don't post.

I’m sure some of you understand what I’m talking about and maybe even agree with me that its silly to get stressed over such things.

Blogging is to be fun, to be a place to relax, a place to talk and visit.

I'm sure all of you understand and some have experienced at times, life gets in the way.

I do hope that you all decide to stick with me, continue to follow along with me on this journey of taking back my life.



One thing I have decided to join in on is a Pay It Forward that Mandy @ Bittersweet FolkArt Primitives was hosting.

I know, Simplify Tam!! :) Heehee.

But I have all of 2013 and I do love sending surprises in the mail, so no pressure here.

Any who, back to the Pay It Forward…

2013 Creative Pay It Forward....

the first 5 people to comment on this post stating “they would like to Join In” will receive something from me sometime this year.

I don't know yet what it will be???

Maybe a handmade creation, or a prim candle, or a decorating book, ???

Just what ever comes to my mind or spirit.

I can promise that it will only be a type of item that I would want to receive myself.

There is one small rule and then one catch to this offer.

The one rule is…

This is open to USA and Canada bloggers only. Sorry but international shipping has gotten outrageous.

As for the “Catch”…

The first 5 people to request to be included must make the same offer on their blog and follow through with the giving.

*You must say you want to join in on the PIF in order for your comment to be counted.

Lets spread a little Love this year, my friends.

What do you say??

Wanna join in??



Thanks so much for stopping by and listening to me babble on. :)

I do treasure all of you more than words can express.



Take Care and Talk Soon,



Tiff said...

Oh Tammy, I can so relate to this post. I told my hubby that after I finished the bulletins at the school for this month I had to take a break, no school parties, no spreading myself thin because I can't say no, no more pressure. I love volunteering but when it begins to turn to resentment because I feel guilty if I say no, then that is not healthy.
My blogging has been sporadic over the years, but I'm trying not to let it bother me as much as I used to, we all have families and lives and we all understand that blogging comes second.
I hope you can simplify your life this year and I hope God Blesses you with much happiness, good health, peace of mind.

I didn't sign up for any Valentine swaps this year, didn't want the pressure of a deadline, but I would love to participate in the Pay it Forward(then it is on my time :) ).

Happy New Year to you and your family. (((hugs)))

Unknown said...

Great Tiff!
Please email me your address.

TheCrankyCrow said...

I so "get it" Girlfriend. I'm the queen of guilt. (I blame it on coming from a long line of Lutheran ministers in our family....) ;o I'm trying to "chill" on the blog guilt too...for a while, I didn't feel I could post if I hadn't commented on everyone who followed me's and who I follow's posts....Yikes. It still creeps up on me, but I'm working at it. I'm taking next term off (after the one just starting) from teaching to "reclaim" a few areas of my house...and my sanity. We'll see how THAT goes. Wishing you much luck in your endeavor.

I'd love to participate in your PIF - but already joined one on FB.....I probably should have done it on my blog as I have more blog connections than FB friends - but figure if 5 don't join up, I'll just randomly select people!! Have fun with yours!! Smiles & Hugs ~ Robin

Marsha @ Tattered Chick said...

I can SO relate, Tammy!! One reason a couple of years ago I closed down my doll business, last year I stopped selling on Etsy.

Funny thing, this year I want to pay more attention to my home as well and haven't decided yet if I want to sell at the flea in April and October . . .

Oh, I would love to participate in your PIF but I am doing it on my FB page . . . I have one more spot left, tee hee


Unknown said...

I am so in with this idea, I love it.
I am doing the same thing on my blog too right now too.
Please count me in

Unknown said...

Thanks so much for stopping by and for joining in.
Please email me your shipping information.

BumbleBeeLane said...

Tam~ I so understand where you are unfortunately my stress is from uncontrolable things right now.I have the guilt thing to and that drive to get it all done...I'm learning to take life day by day.I'm already joing in the pay it forward thing but please keep me on your RAK list.I decided the PIF would get me motivated to continue the RAK's I've neglected lately.I miss bringing that smile to someones day.Sounds like your off to a good start for the New Year!~Amy

Raymond Homestead said...

Sounds like there are a lot of us Tammy that understand where you're coming from. I always tend to feel bad if I haven't had time to check out everyone's blog and leave a comment. It's not that I don't care, like you said sometimes life gets busy. I glad you are going to continue to blog, I would miss you!

Cyn said...

I believe most of us are this way..putting too much pressure on ourselves that we take the fun out of life.

prims by olde lady morgan said...


I am with you with the guilt...what is it...Hubby says it's my catholic schooling... trying so hard to get past it... we only get one go around,a nd we need to make the most of it...
The booth, get it, rent can kill you, and finding it cheap is sooo hard... Enjoy your home, its sooo wonderful! So down enjoy! I should of did the RAK on blogland... sigh...Jumped in on FB... so I am alreayd doing one.. I know what ever you give will be wonderful! HUGS! OLM

Primitive Stars said...

Evening Tammy, I also understand the way you feel, hope you take the time to slow down and enjoy your wonderful happy your still going to blog, I would miss you to.....Hugs Francine.

Farmhouse prims said...

Hi Tammy, I know exactly how you feel. I always put too much stress on myself. I can't even relax until I have all these million of things done, that means nothing to no one else. We just need to stop and smell the coffee and do some things that are fun for us.
But is is so hard when you try to juggle, home, work, family, crafting, just overwhelming at times.
Hope you enjoy 2013 and take some time for yourself. hugs, Lecia

Cherry's Prairie Primitives said...

Take Care of yourself, sit for a moment and relax. You only get one life enjoy it to the fullest!!

bettyj said...

Tammy, all of my friends laugh about my "veil of guilt." It started when m husband went into the nursing home and I have worn it faithfully. But know what. I took it off and burned it. Life is too short. It is what it is and we have to think about us. I don't mean be selfish, but guilt makes you ill. Be happy, do what you can, don't worry about what you can't control. Life is much better, now that I have done this. Just put my house into the realtors hands this past week.

The Farmers Daughter said...

Tammy--I'm so glad you wrote this post! I know many of us feel the same stress at times--but you've had more than your share this past year. Glad to hear you're still gonna blog. I'd miss you!
Blessings from the Farmhouse,

Wendy @ Ravenwood Whimzies said...

I think there are many of us feeling what you are! Wonderful post..and as many have said...we'd miss you if you were not here!
I'm not sure from the comments who is participating in your PIF, but I'd be happy to join in with you if it isn't too late.

Unknown said...

All five spots have been filled.
Thanks so much, ladies!

Kendra said...

I have been trying to accept that changes take place and I don't have to like it, but as children grow, our interests change, etc. etc. there is not the time to do the things we used to do or for life to be the way it "always" was sometimes. I think you are on the right track with your simpifying your life idea, good for you!


oldepearprimitives said...

I so know how you feel! I haven't been on here in forever. I'm just so busy most of the times I really just post on Facebook anymore. I understand completely about your booth and trying to keep it filled. I tried that too and found I payed more to rent then I did in making any sales. Even my store on etsy seemed to me a waste because it wasn't making much revenue to sustain my business. But luckily I have found a store here that people seem to be more open to my items. It's just hard :( but at anytime you need to talk or a shoulder to cry on you can always call me or drop me an email. I hope the stresses in your life dissipate and that you can breathe. You deserve nothing but happiness in your life :)

Take care,
Hugs Gen